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Signs of an Abusive Boyfriend or Husband

Updated on August 21, 2017
Signs of an Abusive Boyfriend or Husband
Signs of an Abusive Boyfriend or Husband

Avoid Dealing with Rotten Fruit

Abusive men are part of the problem of society; and women getting abused by them have to take their power back. First, the abused women need to admit that there's something wrong, seek for professional help, and possibly involve law enforcement. Women getting abused range in age from young teenagers, college students to housewives.

Women getting abused by boyfriends or spouses is more common than we think. The men that abuse women are fearful and mentally-weak individuals, so those men want the women to be full of fear also.


Characteristics of an Abuser

  • Habitual anger
  • Paranoid
  • Cowardice
  • Prideful
  • Controlling
  • Non-Gentlemen behavior
  • Cruel and rotten behavior
  • Is an angry-giver to his spouse
  • Physically aggressive
  • Ungrateful for the good things his spouse does
  • Sabotages the goodness in his relationship
  • Consistent with saying hurtful things to his spouse
  • Has no remorse of his abusive ways
  • Builds bad memories in the relationship
  • Make threats
  • Invasion of their victim's privacy
  • Records his spouse's communication when he's not home.
  • Stalking her


There are different types of abuse; there is verbal, physical, and even neglect abuse. When an abusive spouse leaves there partner home, stand then up on a date, don't return 99% of their phones calls, etc., this is neglect.

With many abusive men, some situations seem to be either white or black, when there should to be a gray area for balance. Some abusers use "silent treatment abuse" or overboard arguing in rage (this is the white and black area I mentioned above); when there should be normal communication with their mates (normal gray area for balance).

Abusive men want to make their victim feel low self-esteem, the abuser think they are taking energy from their victim. But the only way the abusive person wins is when the victim let them have all the power. 'Women in power' have to keep standing for what is right, and never let an abuser take their power.


Women Getting Abused
Women Getting Abused

Dictionary Definitions of:

  1. Silent treatment abuse - an act of maintaining silence toward another person, especially as a means of indicating disapproval or rejection.
  2. Verbal abuse - is a pattern of words, remarks or comments that can emotionally and mentally affect a person.
  3. Passive aggressive behavior - person who try to subtly take out their anger on others, rather than voicing their anger and dealing with it directly.
  4. Sadistic behavior - characterized by sadism; deriving pleasure from inflicting pain in expression of so called love.
  5. Narcissistic behavior - an undue fascination with oneself; vain. An interest in or admiration for oneself, especially one's physical appearance.


Seek Professional Help

Women abused by men often think it's her fault that she's being abused. But it is not the victims fault; their abusive mate shouldn't be telling them what clothes to wear or anything like that. The abuser usually wants to know where their partner is at all times, and what they're doing.


More characteristics of an abuser:

  • Pushing the victim.
  • Verbally attacking the victim.
  • Uses profanity toward the victim.
  • Making the victim do things that are illegal.
  • Saying threats of violence.
  • Doesn't accept responsibility for his rotten ways.
  • Flirting with other women in front of their mate.
  • He is a repeat offender of abuse nearly every month.
  • Isn't sincere with his apologies, he only says he sorry because he want's sex.
  • Making the victim do degrading and disgusting things during sex; against her will.
  • Not letting the victim be herself such as finishing school, or being morally righteous.


Women abused by men don't have to be victims for long by seeking professional help; getting a restraining order against their abuser, relocating to another area, seeking Godly-Christian support i.e. counseling, or church. It's a good idea to never beg an abuser to stay in your, let him leave; it will all work out for your own good.

Women getting abused starts to think that they are useless, worthless, or angry just as the abuser; this is when the victim is letting the abuser win. Never let the abusive person win by stooping to their level of abusive behavior!

Sometimes the way a relationship starts is the way it usually ends. If he was very jealous in the beginning, then he will be insanely jealous at the end of the relationship.

Girlfriend Why? (by Pebbles)

© 2011 Brinafr3sh

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